Posted: by Jo Monday, 29 July 2019 @ 13:51
This month, we are asking ourselves what we
can learn from the mantra,
‘Do more of what makes you happy'.
It would be easy initially to think this is
quite a selfish mantra. It seems to be telling us to prioritise ourselves, and
to think about doing things to add to our own personal store of happiness.
We might consider fun things we love doing,
like going on holiday, watching a movie, eating ice cream, staying in bed a bit
longer, taking a bath. We might think it is encouraging us to ignore what other
people want, and ignore our responsibilities, to prioritise fun stuff that
brings us joy.
But this would be to misunderstand
All the evidence suggests that the things
that bring us pleasure - the fun, relaxing or indulgent activities we enjoy -
are not the same as things that create real, lasting happiness.
Four things are needed in our lives, if we
are to be truly happy.
first is good, deep, engaging relationships with people we love and care about.
second is a sense of purpose or meaning to our day-to-day lives.
third is the deep satisfaction that comes from helping others and contributing
to things outside ourselves.
the fourth is a positive outlook, which sees setbacks as temporary and problems
as simply challenges to be navigated.
If we have these four things in our lives,
and a good balance between them - then we will know true and lasting happiness.
So, let’s re-consider that mantra again. ‘Do
more of what makes you happy’ is exhorting us to spend time with our family and
friends, prioritising our human relationships. It is encouraging us to find our
own sense of purpose and meaning in life, to look for the bigger picture and
the wider perspective.
It is encouraging us to see how we can help
others, and be generous with our time, support, advice, money, or practical
aid. And it is reminding us to cultivate a positive, sunny, optimistic mindset
and hopeful outlook, so that we can cope more easily with life’s difficulties.
If, this month, we all focus on doing more of
these four things, then the mantra ‘Do more of what makes you happy’ is the
least selfish and most generous-hearted mantra of all.
Share your thoughts and experience with us
this month, and tell us what this mantra means to you.
Remind yourself of it every day, with a ‘Happiness’ Bar Necklace - 15% off this month.